This week Ireland lost someone very special… a woman who embodied lots of the very best things about being Irish. A story teller par excellence.
My tribute to our Maeve from Dalkey is on the Writing.ie website. Click here.
This week Ireland lost someone very special… a woman who embodied lots of the very best things about being Irish. A story teller par excellence.
My tribute to our Maeve from Dalkey is on the Writing.ie website. Click here.
Recently I have seen two ads which have made me cross. The first one I encountered some weeks back, over my breakfast while perusing the Irish Times (one of my most cherished times of day). Turning the page my eye was caught by an ad for Harvey Nichols which featured a woman who had quite clearly wet her pants. Yep, Harvey Nichols was appealing to women to come and visit their sale where we may wet ourselves with excitement! A woman who had supposedly pee’d her pants is not the image I expect to see in my Irish Times of a morning. Most off putting of one’s breakfast. The bad taste of the ad was staggering. I don’t shop in Harvey Nicks (and I don’t generally pee myself with excitement about shopping generally) but are they not considered a high end store? What was being said in this ad? Is it now socially acceptable to pee your pants? I was annoyed and stunned.
You can therefore imagine how doubly stunned I was the following day when the scene repeated itself almost exactly – breakfast, Irish Times, Harvey Nichols ad – but this time it featured a male model – and he had no wet stain on his pants! Dry as a whistle he was. Now I was really mad. So, Harvey Nichols thinks only women pee themselves with excitement. However some chat about it all on twitter indicated that the same ad had appeared in a different newspaper a few days earlier and the male model had a wet patch. Had the Irish Times called a halt on the peeing models? All I can say is ‘yuck’.
Today Twitter brings to my attention a flyer that Centra are apparently distributing which is advertising a range of their ‘special offers’ under the banner ‘Children’s Allowance Day Deals’. All kinds of products are advertised including a box of beer? It was not just me who was annoyed. Twitter was alive with comment – which as far as I could see was all negative.
But it got me thinking. Both of these ad campaigns are so clearly ‘wrong’ – are they deliberate? Have marketing executives and departments become so cynical that they think if they produce something in very dubious taste or clearly morally a bit suspect it’s bound to generate comment. Are they operating under that old adage that ‘there is no such thing as bad publicity’
I cannot believe that both companies were so blind to their marketing guru’s line in patter that they could not see the poor taste and lack of judgement evident in both of these very different ads. And both ads are clearly aimed at different target markets.
I would be fascinated to know the truth. Either way I don’t agree with the ‘all publicity is good publicity’ philosophy. I would be terrified to shop in Harvey Nichols – imagine trying on a pair of trousers that someone may have gotten over excited in? Nah. Thanks.
A new magazine dropped onto my desk this week……
You have no idea how I have longed to use that phrase. Are you picturing me working in a fabulous office where, a constant stream of products drop onto my lap seeking my imprimatur? In fact my desk is in my emigrant eldest daughter’s bedroom, where I work at a desk facing a purple wall!! But I digress….
Regular readers will know that I harbour a dream of upping sticks and moving out of suburbia and into the country. Wexford or Kilkenny would probably be my counties of preference as I would not like to be too far from the city of my birth. I have been known to while away long hours when there’s nothing on the tellybox, surfing websites such as DAFT and MyHome looking for my alter abode. In fact if I am to be truthful I actually have a saved list of properties on DAFT and on a day when I need to dream a different life I visit this list and drool over these quirky houses with orchards, vegetable patches, room for donkeys and hens… sigh. My other dream is to bail out of life for a year and rent a cottage on the Aran Islands….. but that’s another story! Suffice to say that although a Dub born and bred I seem to have the call of the country somewhere deep within my soul! Perhaps this stems from the generally happy memories of Irish Farm family holidays in the 70s.
Women’s magazines drive me nuts regularly… with their over emphasis on beauty and fashion and dieting!! Pages and pages of impossibly gorgeous, very skinny, very young women interspersed with only perhaps one meaty article worth reading. I know this is a massive generalisation and it does seem to apply more to UK than Irish magazines but still after years of trying everything from Cosmopolitan to Prima and Good Housekeeping I have given up. I rarely buy magazines now… as a 50 year old woman with only a passing interest in clothes and makeup, I find them just too depressing.
When I cast a cold eye over the cover of the new Irish Country Magazine (from the Farmers Journal, dontchya know… yee haw) I was delighted to see a photo of a real woman, Catherine Fulvio, – looking beautiful but normal! Some Irish magazines have often been guilty of taking Irish celebrity women and totally over-styling them so that you have to look twice to recognise who they are!
I am happy to say that my delight in the cover of ‘Irish Country Magazine’ continued as I perused the innards of this new publication. I found meaty articles aplenty and some beautiful writing. I was particularly taken with a column by Cherone Duggan who is an Irish farmers daughter studying in Harvard and who wrote about the joy of rain. I hope she will be a regular contributor.
There is also a feature on daughters and fathers, and a wellbeing section which leads with an article by that wonderfully wise woman, Maureen Gaffney about regrets.
There is one fashion shoot (and again is not over styled but relatively normal looking), there is one beauty feature but there is also lots of gardening, interiors and food (with Neven Maguire and cover woman Catherine Fulvio).
So if you, like me, are not a fan of women’s magazines (‘cos they make you feel cross and depressed), perhaps have a look at Irish Country Magazine…. I liked it. It costs €2.99 and is quarterly. The summer edition is in shops now.
Now… I wonder would they consider a column by a Dublin ole wan who decamps to Inis Oirr for a year?
What is this nonsense about Ryanair possibly going to buy Aer Lingus? Ryanair – that cheeky upstart of an airline, which I accept was almost entirely responsible for making flying affordable for us Irish, stranded as we are on this rocky, green, damp island on the western edge of Europe. But take over Aer Lingus… that august and proud airline, that erstwhile symbol of national pride, I bloody well hope not!
I am resisting the temptation to rant on about why I really hate flying Ryanair. I will not describe the nervous heap they reduce me to while I stand for hours in a queue at a gate which manages to be on the far side of the airfield from the terminal, wearing too many clothes so that my hand luggage weighs less that my handbag normally does. I will refrain from pouring scorn on the sweaty leather seats and the garish blue and yellow interior of their aircraft. But the blaring of a fanfare when we arrive on time is a step too far and really is an appalling way to treat customers.
Oh no, give me Aer Lingus any day. I think Aer Lingus like me and are happy to have me onboard. Ryanair seem to be out to get me and they definitely don’t like me much, a fact that could be due to the perspiration on my forehead I guess.
Aer Lingus and I have a long shared history. In the 1960’s my father worked in Customs and Excise (as it was called then) and occasionally on weekends I accompanied him to Dublin Airport at Collinstown. The original terminal building with its feminine curving lines was as beautiful inside as out. I can still see its large, airy and bright main hall dominated, if my memory serves me correctly, by a huge wall clock. The airport was a portal to exotic and wondrous foreign shores and adventure. The tingle of anticipation was heightened by the whiff of jet fuel from the nearby apron. To a little girl Dublin Airport was somewhere very special indeed.
In 1971, I was nine years old when Aer Lingus took delivery of its first 747 Jumbo Jet. I remember standing in our back garden in Blackrock watching as this huge aircraft passed overhead. This kind of flypast became a bit of a habit for Aer Lingus 747s; they did it again in 1979, a low pass over the city of the Papal flight, although this time the Jumbo Jet was flanked on each wing by two Air Corps aircraft. Being a cool teenager I took great delight in having no interest whatsoever in the Pope’s visit. However I did feel a certain pride when I realised that his arrival on our national carrier was the first time a Pope had ever travelled on an airline other than Alitalia.
As a child of the 70s, Aer Lingus was one of the very first things that made me proud to be Irish. This little country, which was seriously lacking in pizzazz or excitement, had an airline which was deemed to be as good as any on the planet, at a time when air travel was the ultimate in glamorous living. Sure hadn’t it got an office on 5th Ave in New York to prove it? Aer Lingus symbolised an Ireland that was beginning to believe in itself.
Perhaps it was in part my early exposure to the charms of both the Airport and the airline that led me to a job in the travel business. I joined the JWT set and in the early 80s spent one winter working as a Holiday Rep in Gran Canaria. At that time the bulk of the Irish holidaymakers arrived on the island on a chartered Aer Lingus 747, which delivered to us a staggering 470 passengers. This caused some logistical problems on the ground as it meant that all Irish holiday companies had arrivals and departures on the same day and at the same time. As Reps we had to book our coaches well in advance or our clients would be left making the transfer in some old bone shaker of a rickety vehicle which normally functioned as a school bus.
During the ‘90s my love life was complicated. My boyfriend lived in London and so we spent every second weekend commuting back and forwards across the Irish Sea – always with Aer Lingus. There were more than a few occasions when I arrived a bit ahead of schedule at Gatwick and used to ask at check-in if I might change to the earlier flight. Invariably the nice Aer Lingus people would tell me to go ahead to the gate with my bag and if they could, they certainly would put me on the first flight available. It usually worked and no one ever had the audacity to ask me for payment.
My experiences with Aer Lingus have always been positive. My travel memories are interspersed with those hours of waiting at various airports for my flight back to Dublin. Tired, tanned and tetchy at the end of a holiday, that first sight of the familiar green and blue livery descending from the sky was always a surprising source of national pride. I am not ashamed to admit that I still feel that way today. And does anyone else fondly remember the aroma of Irish Breakfast that used to waft through the cabin on an early morning flight home…. sure we were home before we ever left the ground!
I admit I seem to have a slightly irrational and very emotional attachment to our national carrier… but I doubt that I am alone. Aer Lingus is our airline. And it is still one of the safest and best airlines in the world. So who’s going to tell the Troika we ain’t selling it?
So, Euro2012 wasn’t quite an Italia90!
Back in 1990 things just kept getting better as our national soccer team led the entire country on a magical journey all the way to the semi finals where if I am not mistaken we were finally beaten by Italy. It was a special time when you could almost feel ‘Ireland Inc’ (sorry – I hate that expression too) beginning to develop a self confidence and a realisation that we were as good as any other nation on earth.
Bear in mind that this football odyssey came just two short two years after Houghton put the ball in the England net in Stuttgart and five years after Live Aid. I know we didn’t play football at Live Aid, but it was another iconic event which led many of us who watched it, to realise that U2 were well on their way to becoming the biggest rock band in the world and that Bob Geldof was a force of nature to be reckoned with. I remember noticing Irish flags near the stage and the slow dawning realisation that perhaps we not only could breed great leaders and musicians but maybe Ireland was also cool. Italia90 confirmed all of these possibilities.
But added to this burgeoning confidence were the army of fans (Jack’s Army in 1990) who travelled to Italy to support the team. Sky News was a new 24hour news station in 1990 and I remember their reporters in Rome for the semi finals interviewing Irish fans who were there for ‘the craic’ and who couldn’t believe our good fortune in getting all the way to the quarter finals. Their delight and pure joy in the experience was palpable and catching and a revelation to the British reporters who were more used to football fans being hooligans. Back in 1990 we were proud of the team, of honourary Irishman Jack Charlton and of the brilliant supporters. It was all damn near perfect!
So here we are 22 years later (can you believe it is that long ago?) and the Irish soccer team are back at a big international tournament and again we are being managed by a foreigner… this time Italian Giovanni Trapattoni. The fans mobilised by air and by land and headed east to Poland, a country with whom we now have strong links after our Celtic Tiger economy attracted so many of their countrymen and women to our shores to work. Expectations were high. Alas, as we all know, things have not panned out the way we might have hoped. In football terms the whole thing has been a disaster.
In 1990 Ireland was on the brink of conceiving her Celtic Tiger and we were all feeling good about ourselves. Now, in 2012 we are very much a broken country, traumatised by the collapse of our economy and giving away of our sovereignty and many of us trying to come to terms with crippling personal debt. There is a horrible feeling that we have lost control of our lives and indeed to a large extent we have.
To a lesser country the dismal football performances would have added to this feeling of depression and self loathing. Our having the ignominious glory of being the first team out of the tournament could serve to reaffirm our belief that we are as capable of playing football as we are in managing our economy. To a lesser country at the very least this would have led to an army of supporters coming home down and depressed and thoroughly fed up. Like those of us who feel we have no control over our lives as we struggle through this quagmire of financial disaster, our supporters might rightly have felt that no matter how much they sang they couldn’t seem to influence things on the field.
But the one thing we always have control over (listen up now – this is important) is our attitude to disaster. We are the only ones who can decide how we face each day. We can do so depressed and fed up or we can make a concerted and deliberate effort to greet the day with a smile and a spirit of optimism. It’s not easy in the face of all the huge financial problems we have… but it can be done. And if there is one thing we should take from Euro 2012 it is just that. We Irish have been gifted a great sense of humour. We love a party. We invented the craic. Don’t underestimate how a precious these gifts are.
How many countries with far superior soccer teams to ours would love to have our supporters? Our army of madly dressed men and women, who had the longest journey to make to Poland, but arrived in their thousands – many in converted ice cream vans and ambulances and clapped out vehicles. They knew they were backing one of the weakest teams in the tournament but they were determined to bring good humour which they showcased beautifully with their witty banners and signs – one of which even make the cover of German newspaper Bild.
Before and after matches our supporters partied with those of the very teams who crashed any dreams we might have had of winning an odd game. And last night in the face of a humbling defeat they gave a ten minute rousing rendition of The Fields of Athenry. Put simply if Carlsberg did football supporters they would do Irish ones…
As that saying goes ‘life is not about waiting for the storm to pass but rather it is about learning to dance in the rain’. Our soccer supporters showed all of Europe how to dance in the rain. And they did so with grace and humour. I am so proud of them. They reminded me of just how bloody great it is to be Irish!
A client of my husband’s arrived at our house recently to collect some photographs. It was a Saturday morning and she was accompanied by her gorgeous daughter who was about 2 years old.
Arriving at our door can be a bit hectic as not only will you be greeted by one of us 2 leggeds, but you will also be met by Dylan Da Dog who gets ridiculously excited at the appearance of any visitors – known or unknown.
As I opened the door that Saturday morning I did my best to restrain Dylan while trying to retain some semblance to normal human behaviour so as not to completely overwhelm this little person on my doorstep. I need not have worried. “Doggie” she exclaimed and immediately opened her arms to hug a delighted Dylan. The honest and genuine warmth of this little girl who had no fear whatsoever of our madly dancing, manically tailwagging dog was a joy to watch. “She likes dogs,” I offered. “Yep,” her mother confirmed, “she loves them.”
Gay Byrne used to famously say every year on the Late Late Toy Show that the greatest gift you can give a child is the gift of reading. I agree. But the second greatest gift you can hand your child is the love of a family pet. My heart breaks every time I meet a child who has a fear of dogs or cats.
I have always lived with animals. In fact the only time I was without a cat in my life were the two winter seasons I spent in the Canary Islands and it was a loss I felt keenly and which led me to talk to every stray, scrawny Spanish moggie I met.
My kids obviously have always shared their lives with animals too. For me, there are few life lessons as important for children than learning how to respect and care for a pet. We have all learned about love, life and grief from sharing our life with our 4 leggeds.
Yesterday my mother handed me a book, entitled ‘A Street Cat Named Bob’. Very simply this book tells the story of former homeless man and recovering heroin addict James Bowen who became adopted by an amazing cat called Bob. Bob the cat was in a bad way when he first showed up and James had to nurse him back to full health with the help of the RSPCA. In turn James credits the love he got from Bob with helping him turn in his life around. It is a beautiful story that illustrates perfectly how I think God intended us to share this beautiful planet with our animal brothers and sisters. Mutual respect along with love freely given is key.
Naturally I am a huge supporter of the work here in Dublin of the DSPCA. All of my four cats are rescues and we are regular fosterers of kittens also. Getting a pet is not something anyone should do lightly. Along with all the love and fun and good stuff there is hard work too. And when it comes to cats and dogs, there’s the matter of a commitment that could run to near on 20 years.
But if adopting an animal is something that you are curious about or if you would like to support the work of this amazing charity, why not pop along to their PetFest at their HQ on Mount Venus Road, Rathfarnham on Saturday June 16th from 12noon till 4pm. Panto Queen June Rogers will be there as will 98FM’s Teena Gates who will be judging the ‘Scruffts’ dog show. There will be food stalls and information about the work of Ireland’s oldest animal charity. The kids can enjoy the face painting and bouncing castle. But most of all you can learn about adopting an animal, from the people who know best how to advise you.
But even if pet ownership is not for you, why not go along so that your children can get up close and personal with some 4 leggeds. I can’t think of a nicer way to spend a Saturday! And sure you never know, you might make some new friends!!!
Today is voting day in the EU Treaty Referendum. For the last month or so we have been deafened by conflicting voices telling us what they think we should do. I am not going to rehash any of the debates (although most of them descended into shouting matches) but there is one thing that has irked me in a big way from the beginning of this campaign. And oddly enough it was exactly the same thing that irked me the last time we voted (the General Election 2011) and that thing is ENDA KENNY.
I have nothing against the man personally. I do think he is a good person with his heart in the right place. But he is a weak leader – something I feared over a year ago when my vote, along with an avalanche of others, propelled him and his party into government with Labour.
After 4 years of brutal recession Ireland continues to struggle economically. That sentence doesn’t however convey the very real suffering of many people in this country. A fact that was brought into sharp focus this week with an excellent, if very depressing programme on RTE 1 called Life and Debt (you can watch it back on the RTE Player here). This programme portrayed the very real and desperate nightmare many people are caught in right now. The programme made me very angry, particularly as it was broadcast in a week when once again Ireland paid €2.25bn to bondholders. According to tweeter @sebthegooner that equates to €500 for every man, woman and child in this country. That would amount to €2,000 from this house alone. We could buy our daughter the wardrobes she badly needs for her bedroom…. but for those who were featured on ‘Life and Debt’ this might buy a bit of peace of mind for a couple of weeks.
If we ever needed strong leadership we need it now, which brings me neatly back to our Enda. Once again he refused to go into TV3 or any other studio to debate the issues around the EU Treaty. Bear in mind we pay this man €200,000 a year to lead the country. The arrogance is breathtaking.
But it is more serious that just giving a two fingers to his electorate, Enda Kenny’s refusal to debate live on air, his obvious fear of conflict or being seen to lose clearly makes him unsuitable for the high office he holds. This is the man on whom we depend to negotiate our case in Europe. I despair. I really do. The clip above from last nights Channel 4 News is enough to make one cry!
Here is the blog post I wrote over a year ago just prior to the General Election… the gladioli have come home to roost… or something!
Where’s my voting card…… It’s going to be NO.
This is a beautiful and thought provoking short film…. and it was made over a cold bright weekend in winter on Dun Laoghaire Pier… and you might recognise someone.
You can listen to my piece entitled The Wrong Bus which was broadcast last Sunday on RTE Radio One’s Sunday Miscellany by clicking here. I am the third contributor at about 19 minutes in. And do also listen to the beautiful piece of music played afterwards – by Paco Pena.
I also contributed to Newstalk’s ‘Talking Point’ with Sarah Carey which was broadcast last Saturday. We discussed how far the state should go on legislating for good parenting. You can listen to that by clicking here.
(then click the date 12th May to begin listening). I was joined on the panel by Sunday Independent columnist Carol Hunt and Independent Senator Jillian Van Turnhout
Did I mention that I love doing radio?
Oh and I will also have a short radio essay on this weekend’s Media Show on RTE Radio One at 7.30pm on Saturday evening. I will be putting forward the case for more positive news!
Yep, I love doing radio!
There was a great item on the radio this morning. In the middle of a stressful couple of hours dealing with blocked drains (as in sewage pipes) I retreated to my office and turned on the radio, just in time to hear Ella McSweeney talking about excited cows. Yes – that’s right, excited cows. Ella had recorded a piece yesterday on a farm in Wicklow where she accompanied a farmer to his sheds as he prepared to ‘turn out’ the cows. After four long months spent indoors eating cow food and silage, the cows were about to be released back into the fields and boy were they excited? The mooooed long mooos and they kicked and skipped in a cow fashion as he opened the barn doors. Through the radio I could sense their exhilaration as they gained their freedom and their senses were bombarded by the smell and sight of fresh grass and wide open fields. Apparently it’s called Macnas – the joyful abandon of a cow let loose in a field. It was the kind of radio that made me smile and helped restore my internal equilibrium after a shitty morning (pardon the intended pun).
Internal equilibrium or balance is vital to good mental health. So it is entirely appropriate that today is the Vernal or Spring Equinox when the hours of light and darkness are exactly equal. Balance is something we all need in our lives. It is so easy for things to go out of synch and become polarised. One of my favourite affirmations is “bring all things to balance, harmony will follow.”
Like the cows in Wicklow the Spring Equinox is also about moving forward, preferably with joyful abandon. Equinox reminds us to be fully awake and engaged in our world. Spring is here, sap is rising and in the natural world it’s all about fertility, hence the association of Easter with rabbits (ultimate symbol of rampant fertility) and eggs!
It is time to be like the cows and their macnas….. get outdoors, feel the wind in your hair, the gentle rays of the sun on your face and the pulse of new life bursting forth in nature. It is also about creativity, whether that means baking a cake or being a co-creator, with Mother Nature, of abundance in your garden by making ready the soil and planting seeds.
Perhaps it’s my Celtic pagan heritage but I love reflecting on these old ‘wheel of the year’ markers. Awareness of these agricultural and astrological marker days provides us with a pause in our busy lives, even if only to be aware of the turning of the year. I like that.
Photo by Cheeseslave on Flickr
A shorter version of this short story was published recently by Woman’s Way magazine.
The short term car park was a cauldron of bad tempered chaos. Negotiating slowly around pillars, cars double parked waiting for a family to load up and move out, and hordes of giddy, scantily clad young women who appeared to have returned to Dublin directly from the Spanish nightclub, did nothing to ease my already frazzled nerves. I sent a plea to the car parking angels to please find me a space and continued my search, as I tried to swallow my rising sense of panic. I was already late. Finally I found a space, albeit it on the roof and in the corner furthest away from the walkway into the terminal building. “Memo to self” I muttered “be more specific when lodging requests with the Angels of Parking Spaces.” It was blowing a biting, easterly gale which was whipping rain in horizontal spears across the car park roof. “Bloody hell, I will be like the drowned rat after she was pulled through the bush backways.” Bloody hell.
In the Arrivals Hall a quick glance at the TV Monitor told me that the flight from Amsterdam had just landed. Putting my faith in the laissez-faire Dublin baggage handlers and perhaps, if luck was on my side, a shift change about now, I made a bee line for the bathroom to attempt to salvage something of my appearance which had been so carefully put together before I left home. I tried valiantly to retrieve my hair from the dark side, dabbed powder to subdue my shiny face and re applied some girliness with more pink lippy and surveyed the result. “It will do” I thought. Although I wished I wasn’t so pale. Last time Pier had seen me I was wearing a honeyed Mediterranean tan. Gathering as much confidence as I could fake, I strode back to the Meeting Point.
I took up a position among the throng of expectant relatives and professional meeters and greeters, trying to look casual and control my jelly like legs. I wasn’t sure if I was suffering from nerves or excitement or both. I squinted at new arrivals luggage trying to spot an AMS sticker. None yet. My mouth was dry. I opened my bag and popped in strong mint into my mouth and sucked hard. Be calm, be cool, I told myself.
In attempt to control my nerves I concentrated my mind on the carved wooden box at home which contained all Pier’s letters. Pier’s funny, beautiful, and loving letters which I had been receiving for almost a year. He wrote English better than he spoke it and his words were full of colour, humour and sunshine. He described his life working for an Advertising Agency in the centre of Amsterdam, his flat which, naturally had a view of a canal, and his beloved bike which took him everywhere he needed to go. He made me laugh with his tales of smoking pot legally in one of the many hash houses he frequented. He wrote about his hippy parents who had retired to live on a houseboat with lots of cats and of the latest concert he had been to. In turn I wrote to him about Dublin, making it seem far more cosmopolitan than it was. My letters were sprinkled with references to Bono and to Phil Lynott, as though they were at least neighbours and possibly friends of mine. I made passing reference to my modest flat which had a view of a car park but from where I could smell the sea, which was not always a good thing. I told him about my job working for a holiday company and my great social life wandering around the pubs of the city which carried echoes of our literary heritage. He kept promising that he would visit Dublin and me soon. And now he would be here any minute.
Also in the wooden box were the photos of that great holiday in Ibiza. We met in an Irish pub in San Antonio and I couldn’t believe that I was having the clichéd holiday romance with a gorgeous blonde Dutchman. I pictured Pier’s long legs and strong arms. When we danced I felt so small, gathered into his tanned chest. He loved music and his funny English and mispronounced words meant we laughed lots during those two weeks. I smiled at the memories. This was going to be a great weekend.
I had a full itinerary planned with every intention of making Pier fall in love with my city. That could be the deal breaker. He must love Dublin. Because I did and I couldn’t really have imagined my future anywhere else. I had planned breakfast in Bewleys, a walk in Stephens Green, a trip on the new electric rail train, the Dart around Dublin Bay, a walk down Dun Laoghaire Pier. We would visit Davy Byrnes Pub and O Donoghues for a live trad session. And I had planned a big night on Saturday night in the Pink Elephant with some friends, and maybe a bag of chips from Leo Burdocks on the way home. He would get the very best of Dublin over 3 days and nights. On Sunday we would wander around the Guinness Brewery and he could buy some souvenirs to take back to Holland.
My two best friends, Niamh and Jackie and their men were joining us in the Pink. They were all almost as excited as me about this weekend and couldn’t wait to meet this Pier they had heard so much about. They had seen some of his letters and his photo and were, so far, very impressed. Although I was aware of a slight whiff of desperation in their enthusiasm. For too long I had been the spare wheel in our circle. Niamh had married her childhood sweetheart the previous year and it looked like an announcement from Jackie who has been dating Alan for a year by then was imminent. The 5 of us went out regularly and whereas it didn’t bother me much, I know that Niamh, in particular, felt that we are unbalanced. We should have been 6. And both of them felt that maybe Pier could just be the man for the job. I knew he was fairly keen on me, now I just needed my country to do its bit. Signs were good – he shared my devotion to Thin Lizzy and had just purchased U2’s War album and could belt out ‘Sunday Bloody Sunday’ with great gusto after a few pints. He had also been to a Rory Gallagher concert. He was tall, blonde and very handsome and was a graphic designer. And just a little bit alternative which I really loved. He ticked all the boxes. I just hoped he wouldn’t catch them calling me Louise Van der Beere which had been their latest big joke!
“Louise – hello” the suddenly familiar guttural accented English and my heart skipped a beat. Beaming with happiness I turned around and there he was. I opened my arms in speechless embrace. “Oh bloody hell, this could be a long weekend”
It has all been a bit hectic lately and so I have not had much time for writing, blogging or visiting my favourite blogs. I intend to rectify that over the coming week – in between Sports Day, Concerts and GAA Blitzs. In the meantime here is a very little short story for your amusement. So grab a cuppa, take a seat at the kitchen table and enjoy!
I stood up, smoothed my hair and crossed the bedroom to answer the phone. I made a mental note to get on to Tom again about moving the bloody phone over to the bedside table. As usual he was already fast asleep. Lying on his back, mouth wide open, snoring softly, his grey haired chest rising and falling, the picture of blissed out middle age. I caught sight of my reflection as I passed the wardrobe mirror. My soft and saggy nakedness shocked me. Was that really me? I was caught, mesmerised by the picture captured in the framed mirror. Behind my creased self, was the crumpled bed and my husband of twenty years, oblivious in the dying light of a summer evening. Through the open window, riding on the smell of freshly cut grass came the suburban evening concert of birdsong and the hum of neighbourhood lawnmowers.
I have been here before I thought. On another soft summer evening, I stood framed in a crooked wall mirror and wrapped in the same soft aroma generated by the Trinity College groundsman on his ride on lawnmover. My body was long, lightly tanned and voluptuous. I celebrated my beauty and nakedness by dancing as my lover watched from the bed. Through the mirror I kept contact with his startling blue eyes which were full of the promise of further ecstasy. I danced sensually and slowly, enjoying the sight of his body reacting as he lay sprawled on my single bed. His strong arms held his head up so he could appreciate my teasing. I danced on until he rose up and grabbed me roughly, pulling me back down onto the bed. I gave myself up to his athletic, nut brown body, burying my face in his chest. We devoured each other, noisily, greedily. Outside the day died as we exhausted our appetite for each other. Then we lay, our bodies wrapped around each other as we spoke softly to each other of the big colourful dreams that lay ahead. Futures full of fun, laughter, excitement and languid afternoons spent making love.
It had gone silent. The snoring had stopped and the outside noise had ceased. The quiet was broken by Tom, who muttered “are you going to answer the bloody phone or stare at yourself all evening?” I smoothed my hair, sucked in my stomach, and tippy toed over my broken dreams to answer the phone.
Some weeks back I told you that I was the lucky winner of a book (the very best kind of prize) on Karen Jones Gowen’s blog. The book is called Uncut Diamonds – her second novel.
I have often found myself having to defend the kind of books I like best. I don’t like thrillers, crime fiction, historical fiction or anything that has violence. I like a book to wrap myself up in. A book that allows me to immerse myself in another life where I can watch characters grow and change as they cope with whatever life is throwing at them. I love books strong on character. For me, plot is secondary to that.
Uncut Diamonds is just that kind of book – a wander around the life of Marcie and Shawn McGill and their expanding brood of kids in smalltown USA (set in Illinois). The story charts some turbulent years in the life of this young, growing family who are challenged with the recession of the 70’s which causes Shawn to lose work and ultimately they lose their house.
I just loved the central character, Marcie. She was a young mother, trying to do her best for her family but who often was overwhelmed by life – like the rest of us. I loved the spirituality that was an integral part of this Mormon family’s life. It was a book that certainly resonated with me and had many similarities to Ireland in the 70’s when the church played a huge role in family life.
Ultimately this is a story full of light and redemption as the family find help in all kinds of unexpected places. It highlights the love that binds families together even when on the surface there may be arguments and tensions.
For an uplifting read, you could do worse than read Uncut Diamonds! Check out its author’s blog at www.karengowenjones.blogspot.com
“T’was the night before Christmas”
And all are asleep in my house.
Presents all wrapped and under the tree.
Baking done. House festive.
All that remains is to wish you
A VERY HAPPY CHRISTMAS full of joy and serenity!
With much love